Summary of the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
The title did not attract me much, like the rest of the titles of magazines and websites filled with topics bearing those titles without leaving any scientific value out of them.
However, my friend bought some books on business administration, human development, success and motivation, changing the personality for the better, and the name of this book was repeated a lot. I love reading books, so I started reading a lot of books, and whenever I see a book that has high sales, I check it out briefly and then read it.
While reading the brief, if I do not find something that attracts me to read the book, I will not finish it. I care a lot about time and reading books either adds values for you to grow, or you waste months and get nothing.
Summary of the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
The world revolves around you according to your internal perceptions of it.
In other words, you can change everything if you change the eye through which you look at the things around you.
A person at this particular time sees successful people and begins by asking them how to succeed and make that money?
The answer to that question does not lead the questioner to a place! Because success cannot be achieved by shortcuts, but rather effort, thought, and creativity.
Stephen Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) talks about:
1- How to become a successful person
2- Problem solving and situational strategy
3- Changing the superficial eye that looks at problems to be deeper
4- How to become better in all areas of your life (even social)
So you can expect to change many things inside of you if you read this book..
1- Be proactive
Usually, there are life events and situations that make you build your reactions, and try to prepare yourself to live in those circumstances or events.
Covey tells you in the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People to be the initiator and control so that everything around you will respond to your actions! That is, you take the initiative to control and create conditions for the universe around you to adapt to them, and not the other way around.
You can implement that habit by decision, by design.
Covey gives examples that when a person says, “There is nothing I can do,” for example, he thinks that the problem lies in the events that made this person perform that reaction.
While the problem he thinks of the events lies in him, in the sentence he said, "There is nothing I can do."
We always think that the problem is in the events and situations around us, but rather the problem is in our way of thinking.
While the most effective people create a strong reaction to that event. They bear the responsibility for that. They are responsible for that!!
The most effective people talk to events and circumstances, address them, and take responsibility for solving them - reactions are outward - *focus here* and not inward like talking to and blaming yourself and negative internal influence that weakens you.
It is as if you are uniting with events to attack yourself from within instead of facing what is attacking you from outside.
As I was saying before that positive feelings (happiness, for example) come out of you, you don't need anything from outside to get them.
2- Start with the result in mind
When you are going down a path to a goal, always keep the result in mind. That outcome that you put in your mind makes you get rid of distractions or thoughts that keep you from reaching your goal.
And that result should be that you are aware of what it means and what it will do for you. Being sure that you will be happy and satisfied with it.
Not many people take the time to evaluate that outcome. How would you feel about it on a psychological, mental, emotional, social level…etc.
These evaluations will enhance the good feeling of achieving the dream and the goal you want to reach, and this disciplines your mind not to pay attention while walking because it wants to feel those feelings that will happen when the result occurs.
Being the leader for yourself, as Stephen Covey describes it, and one of the characteristics of the leader is that he sets strategies and steps to reach the end.
The results you focus yourself on are what your mind will guide you to reach.
"What do you want to be?" | “What do you want to achieve?”
3- Arrange your priorities
It is the ability to rank your tasks and steps in relation to the importance of each one. There are many important and insignificant things that are always on your mind.
The third habit is to focus on the important business before anything else.
You must have the ability to say “no” to everything that is unimportant and only allow the important things.
A good organizer takes a lot of time arranging his steps and his thoughts. Covey stresses here that the obstacles that prevent a person from succeeding come from the lack of clarity of his important steps and their mixing with the unimportant, and therefore there is no clear view of what to do.
The mind is always in thought and busy, writing down your important steps makes your focus clearer on the next step.
Covey's Steps in Organizing Important Business:
1) Create task sections (improving personality - improving interaction with society -..etc)
2) Choose goals by specifying one or two goals in each section.
3) Scheduling work on your daily hours each week (hours when you are active select the big ones)
4) Daily review every morning on your agenda.
4- Thinking about the benefit to all (Win-Win) for both parties
In order to have a good relationship between you and the other party, the benefit should be on the win-win equation.
Look closely at relationships, especially in business:
1- Win-Win is a win-win for both parties.
2- Win-Lose If I win, you lose.
3- Lose-Win: I lose and you win.
4- Lose-Lose When two people win-Lose together. (both sides lose)
5- Win is someone who focuses only on profit, does not care about what is happening around him, he just wants to succeed.
In order to achieve the Win-Win equation for both sides, the characteristics of:
1) The abundance mentality (that does not covet)
2) Integrity (to be honest means to be honest and not want mistakes for the purpose of greed or profit)
3) Perception and maturity (stable thinking)
The relationship between you and others means giving and loving, if other reprehensible qualities interfere, it will spoil the relationship. Permanent giving develops and grows relationships.
5- That you understand yourself first, that others understand you second
If you want to interact well with your surroundings, you must first understand the other party before you respond to it.
This is very normal and you can notice it in the communication between the people around you. Whoever listens a lot gives responses that make those around him affected by him because he understands them well and knows what is going on in their minds.
Communication with the other party consists of:
1- 10% by words.
2- 30% by voice.
3- 60% by body language signs.
Usually the reactions are:
1- Evaluation (approved or rejected)
2- Interrogation (we answer with another question to verify)
3- Advice (based on situations you have experienced or heard)
4- Interpretation (trying to explain the idea because you are with it)
In The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Covey tells you to replace those reactions with something called “listening empathically,” which is to listen carefully while the other person feels it. If you take this step, you will be very influential to the other party.
But it takes a little patience to master the listening and get rid of the quick responses of course, but it's worth it.
Covey then links the second part, "that others understand you again", with the Win-Win equation for both sides. You will be very surprised when you apply this and see how quickly you reach the connection between the people around you.
6- Togetherness.
When you apply the previous habits, especially the fourth habit (4- Thinking about the benefit to all (Win-Win) for both parties), this will create a kind of merger between the joint parties that Kofi talks about in an unprecedented way.
Where he gives examples with a very simple equation: 1 + 1 = 3
It is common knowledge that you may hire some people to complete some work, why?
Because you believe in the idea that you will finish a lot of work just by relying on others because of the distribution of tasks to you, and thus the result will happen quickly and easily.
But Kofi is not talking about that kind of synergy, but a synergy in which the members of the group feel that they are one person who performs the work of 3 people, but rather 200, and so on, because the greater the solidarity, the greater the love and bond between the team to seek to attack with a very strong force.
7- Make the saw sharp (sharpen the saw)
In order to become effective and one of the most effective people, you must do the previous habits and this needs a good time.
To continue to receive the energies that change you from within, there are several aspects that must be taken care of:
1- The mental aspect
2- The physical aspect
3- The emotional side
4- The spiritual side
If you neglect one of them, the rest will be spoiled. So set a daily time for the development of each of them.
Mental aspect: reading, writing, planning.
The physical aspect: exercise, clean nutrition.
The emotional side: connecting with the community and achieving a win-win for both parties.
The spiritual aspect: meditation.
Summary of the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People took me a lot of time, and it is one of the personal leadership books that pays attention to the four aspects of the human being (mind, body, emotion, spirit) because when you focus on his words, you will find that that man Stephen speaks and goes from them to get you to develop Totally yours in all areas of life around you..
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